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WHAT 2015 WANTS TO STEAL FROM YOU
You can read What 2015 wants to steal from you  on a plain white background. The ugly purple scar on my ankle and shin is courtesy of a mountain biking accident in Utah this spring. I wish I could tell you I was attempting some daredevil feat, but my fall happened at low speed and << Read More

WHY FAILURE IS OFTEN BETTER THAN SUCCESS
Read  why failure is often better than success on a plain white background Telling children to color inside the lines is a great injustice. It crushes creativity and plants a seed that eventually grows into a toxic fear of failure. If you can’t (or won’t) color inside the lines, you’re branded as learning disabled, willful, or just << Read More

MY MOMENT WITH MAYA ANGELOU
Want to read this blog on a plain white background?  Click here for My Moment With Maya Angelou It was 2008, and it would be the last time I saw my Girl Scout colleagues as a group. Girl Scouts USA was embarking on a national merger, and by this time next year, half of the Girl << Read More

THE UPSIDE TO “OOPS!”
  Want to read this blog on a plain white background?  Click here for The Upside to OOPS The Upside to OOPS So what would you tell your 18-year-old self if you could go back in time with the wisdom of your current now? That’s the question that was posed recently to dozens of women who came to the << Read More

THE SOLUTION TO OUR MENTAL HEALTH CARE CRISIS? Put the mentally ill in jail.
(If you’d like to read this blog on a plain white background, click here: The Solution to our Mental Health Crisis) Almost 60 years ago, the United States embarked upon what has now been called one of “the great social experiments” in its history. The term “great” does not refer to something splendid, but rather << Read More

CAN YOU BE A BOMBSHELL AT 80? Some deep thoughts on beauty from a dubious source.
To read this blog on a plain white background, click on the link: CAN YOU BE A BOMBSHELL AT 80     Gloria Steinem is often remembered for her undercover work (no pun intended!) as a journalist who posed as a Playboy bunny to (ahem) expose  the exploitative working conditions of women at the Playboy Club << Read More

SHOULD WE CARE IF A RAPIST SUFFERS? WHAT WOULD MARTIN LUTHER KING JR SAY?
SHOULD WE CARE IF A RAPIST SUFFERS WHEN HE’S PUT TO DEATH? WHAT WOULD MARTIN LUTHER KING JR SAY? When Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. gave his famous “I have a dream” speech, I was just four years old; my Welsh grandmother and I watched him on a tiny television screen that was transmitting mostly << Read More

HAPPY ROCKIN’ NEW YEAR’S FAIL!
  HAPPY ROCKIN’ NEW YEAR’S FAIL! Failure:  It’s the most reviled f-word in our vocabulary. No one wants to acknowledge or experience it, yet failure is one of our greatest allies and best teachers. How much greater might our businesses and relationships be if we weren’t afraid to fail? What would our own personal world << Read More

PREVENTING THE NEXT SANDY HOOK: THE SECRET WEAPON NO-ONE TALKS ABOUT
PREVENTING THE NEXT SANDY HOOK:  THE SECRET WEAPON NO ONE TALKS ABOUT With the one-year anniversary of the Sandy Hook shooting right around the corner, I’ve been thinking about all the things that need to happen if we’re going to prevent the next one. Yes, we need a good mental health care system.  Yes, we << Read More

IS THE PSYCHIATRIC COMMUNITY IN DENIAL? THERE’S A DIAGNOSIS FOR THAT…
  Recently, 60 Minutes aired a news segment titled “Untreated Mental Illness an Imminent Danger?” which explored the mental health care crisis in this country and the rising number of homicides committed by people with severe, untreated mental illness. Having spent the last year writing about one such preventable tragedy, I was pleased to see << Read More

NINE MONTHS WITH A KILLER
  I’ve been uncharacteristically silent for quite awhile now.  No, I’m not pouting and I haven’t been abducted by aliens, although those two scenarios are always within the range of possibility.  I’ve been slaving away at a new book which is now – thankfully – finished and awaiting your perusal. From memoir to mass murder << Read More

THE GUIDANCE OF PAIN
  True stories:  a little boy decides to show off for his friends by jumping off the first-floor roof of his house.  He does.  He gets up and says he’s fine but dies the next day from internal bleeding. A teenage girl is in the kitchen stirring ramen noodles on the stove when the spoon << Read More

THE ONLY QUESTION WORTH ASKING
  THE ONLY QUESTION WORTH ASKING I keep way too much stuff around for way too long, thinking that perhaps that old textbook or travel brochure will come in handy someday.  Thus, I have accumulated untold numbers of training booklets, leadership manuals, strategic planning templates, and personnel do’s/don’ts from a 20 year career in the << Read More

IS IT BAH OR IS IT BRILLIANT?
November 30, 2012:  As of this moment, there are 25 days ’til Christmas, fewer if you’re reading this late. 25 days.  If you add weekends, take away sleep time, work time, and exercise, there are only 98 hours left; roughly eight days to decorate, shop and prepare.  Feeling a little panicked?  Don’t worry.  Do what << Read More

WHO’S THE REAL G.I. JOE?
For a white person from Canada, spending Veteran’s Day on the Eastern Band of the Cherokee Reservation might seem like an odd way to pay tribute to the men and women who’ve served and sacrificed in the many wars that define our history.  But that’s where I found myself on Monday, November 12, witness to << Read More

ELEANOR ROOSEVELT MAY HAVE BEEN WRONG
  Eleanor Roosevelt – a woman whose thinking was way ahead of her time — said some awesome things back in the early ‘90’s, including one statement I’ve taken to heart:  “You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”  I try to remember this every time fear tries to push me away from << Read More

6 TIPS TO MAKE YOUR VACATION LAST AND LAST
  A week away isn’t long enough, is it?  You spend the first 2-3 days trying to stop thinking about work/home/problems, the next 2 days actually relaxing, and then the next two feeling depressed about having to go home.  You start writing your “to do” list before you even get on the plane! It isn’t << Read More

INSPIRE YOURSELF!
Number one on the Top Ten list of universal fears is public speaking (depending on what poll you consult).   Does the fact that I love it make me a weirdo?  I love public speaking so much that I never ever have to imagine the audience in their underwear, or naked, or any of the other << Read More

AND THE WINNER OF THE BIGGEST BALLS…
  Nature expects males to establish dominance.  Elk, deer, moose and goats do it with horns.  Horses do it with teeth and hooves.  Roosters do it with beaks and talons.  But in my neighborhood, on July 4, the men do it with fireworks. Every other day of the year, they do it with trucks. July << Read More

CH-CH-CH-CHANGES…Turn and face the strange
June 21 was the official first-day-of-summer. The mercury rose to 100F in Charlotte, NC, and in Sidney, British Columbia, my youngest sister turned 50.  (Happy Birthday, Karen!) Transitions. I never thought I would say, “my youngest sister turned 50.”  I prefer saying, “my older sister turned 56.”  In fact, I’m quite sure that the bell-bottomed, << Read More

NEED A NEW PERSPECTIVE? GET HIGH!
I’ll never look at a tree the same way again. Inspired by Adventurista Alex’s story of tree climbing (posted on this website), I decided to give it a try.  At Blue Ridge Tree Climbing in Virginia, I reported for Tree Climbing 101 with Bob Wray and his three coaches:  Big Foot, Luke and Jake.   << Read More

WHAT IT MEANS TO BE LONELY
  If I had one wish for myself, it would be this:  the ability to speak and understand every language in the world.  It’s a wish I’ve had for some time.  I wasn’t altogether sure why, but now I think I know (and it’s not because I’d be able to watch foreign films without subtitles, << Read More

HOW CAN ONE WOMAN MAKE SUCH A DIFFERENCE?
Italy. Been there, done that.  But I didn’t buy the T-shirt, so I have to go back (like anyone would need an excuse). My first visit was a once-in-a-lifetime experience. At the Rockefeller’s artist retreat in Bellagio, on Lake Como in Northern Italy, I was given the most gracious introduction to the Italian way of living.  I << Read More

WHAT FREEDOM FEELS LIKE…
  Since leaving my job and former management career, I’ve received bundles of well-wishes, and the one question on top of everyone’s list is:  So what does freedom feel like? I could tell you everything freedom is free of:  rush hour traffic, alarm clocks, politics, subjugation, forced diplomacy, meetings, mountains of email…but you know that << Read More

AT THE END OF MY ROPE — Lesson #10
Three days in the slot canyons of Southern Utah would challenge and change me in many ways for which I’m grateful, though I didn’t  feel that way at the time.  The cuts, scrapes, bruises, meltdowns, and moments of extreme self-doubt were hard to endure, but they were also transformational. I also learned the value of << Read More

SOMETIMES YOU SHOULD JUST SHUT THE HELL UP — Leadership Lesson #9
  I forgot to tell you one important story from Day One of the 3-day canyoneering  course, where just about everything was new and terrifying.  At the conclusion of the very last rappel, which was probably a relatively easy 20 or 30 feet, I could see the way out of the canyon, through a tiny << Read More

IT’S NOT JUST ABOUT YOU — Leadership Lesson #8
We all have moments that are burned into our memories.  For me, one such moment is rappelling into a waterfall using just one simple knot (the Munter hitch)  I tied with my own hands.  Dying really could have been a consequence of flubbing it.  When I committed my weight to the Munter hitch and it held, << Read More

BLACK HAWK DOWN: A Soldier’s story
  In honor of Veteran’s Day, we take a break from Leadership Lessons from the Edge, to take a look at leadership lessons from the ground… through the eyes of a soldier. This morning, (the day before Veteran’s Day), I sat in the NASCAR Hall of Fame in Charlotte, NC, awaiting the appearance of our << Read More

ALL BETS ARE OFF — LEADERSHIP LESSON #7
      After rappelling into a tree, having a meltdown on the edge of a giant drop, being lowered via rope by a classmate I didn’t trust – I thought that Day Two in the slot canyons of southern Utah had offered up more travail than any one urbanized person should have to handle.  << Read More

Life isn’t always a do-over: LEADERSHIP LESSON 6
Some of the most important lessons I’ve learned have come in the wake of hardship and trials. One experience in particular helped make me a better leader, and a stronger, more resilient version of myself.  Three days navigating the slot canyons of Utah tested every one of my physical and mental limits, but all for << Read More

LEADERSHIP LESSONS 4 & 5: Fear is nothing to be afraid of
Some of the most important lessons I’ve learned have come in the wake of hardship and trials. One experience in particular helped make me a better leader, and a stronger, more resilient version of myself.  Three days navigating the slot canyons of Utah tested every one of my physical and mental limits, but all for << Read More

SEPTEMBER 30, 2011: LEADERSHIP LESSON #3: No, you DON’T know everything
Some of the most important lessons I’ve learned have come in the wake of hardship and trials. One experience in particular helped make me a better leader, and a stronger, more resilient version of myself.  Three days navigating the slot canyons of Utah tested every one of my physical and mental limits, but all for << Read More

SEPTEMBER 22, 2011. LEADERSHIP LESSON #2: SUCCUMB
  Perched over my very first intentional step off a cliff, I wasn’t sure I could do it.  Moments earlier, during my first Leadership Lesson in the canyon, the guide — Jonathan —  had given me all the training I needed to make this first rappel a success, yet fear was eating me alive.  As << Read More

SEPTEMBER 8, 2011: LEADERSHIP LESSONS FROM THE EDGE. LESSON #1 — HUMILITY
  Some of the most important lessons I’ve learned have come in the wake of hardship and trials. One experience in particular helped make me a better leader, and a stronger, more resilient version of myself.  Three days navigating the slot canyons of Utah tested every one of my physical and mental limits, but all << Read More

SEPTEMBER 1, 2011 — MAY I LEAD YOU…ASTRAY?
You’d think that after all this time I’d approach a new adventure shouting yee-HAW instead of murmuring uh-oh.  After intentionally scaring myself half to death at least 100 times and coming out of those situations alive —  I still picture the new adventure in my mind and immediately feel the butterflies in my stomach spring << Read More

August 25, 2011: FIVE UGLY THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT OWN
  “Have nothing in your house you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful,”  William Morris famously proclaimed.  As I’ve entered deeper into the “declutter and divest” mindset, I’ve been noticing there’s an awful lot of stuff around that fits neither criteria. It all started when I saw an ad for << Read More

AUGUST 11, 2011: The 100 Things You Must Own — ON STEROIDS!!!
There’s been a lot of lively offline discussion around “The 100 things you MUST own” blog I posted June 30. A few folks insisted that their shoes (all 240 pairs of them) counted as one item. Yet another group claimed that dishes (4 sets) counted as one item as did pots, pans and cooking implements. << Read More

JULY 14, 2011 — NETFLIX SHOWS ITS BUTT
As far as I know you can’t order porn on Netflix, but they sure pulled a huge boner out of their ass this week when they announced rather abruptly that customers had to choose between the option of DVD delivery or streaming video OR accept a 60% price increase for the luxury of keeping both.  << Read More

June 30 — The 100 Things You MUST Own!
I admit that I’m usually out of the loop on most things. The TV’s rarely on. The radio in my car stays silent.  I didn’t even know about the world ending until the day after it was supposed to happen.  Nor did I understand why everyone snickered when I used the word “Weiner” until someone << Read More

JUNE 25, 2011 — LEARNING TO SEE
  I stood on the surface of the moon, or at least it seemed that way. Blue Mesa trail in Petrified Forest National Park is like that:  Otherworldly, lunar, alien.  Pyramids of whitish rock poked high against the azure sky, while at my feet and strewn all about were huge, ancient, petrified trees that had << Read More

Which is More Likely to be Right: A Monkey with a Typewriter or a GPS?
Anyone who knows me well knows that one of my endearing qualities is that I like to be right.  Oh, I’ll admit when I’m wrong (eventually). It just doesn’t happen very often.  But as a public service I must confess my latest gaffe, especially if it will help just one other person avoid going down << Read More

June 9, 2011 — Running away from home
  A few years ago I dreamed about selling my house, my possessions, and heading out across country with a couple of suitcases and an open mind.  I even thought about making money along the way as a bartendress, collecting people’s stories and maybe even writing a book about them. Then I got older and << Read More

Dinner with a Prince
Dinner with a Prince (A special blog for a special day.  Celebrate the love on Monday, in whatever way lights your fire!) Like most girls who grew up in the 60’s and 70’s, I was raised on a diet of Disney-esque promises of the handsome prince on a white horse who would someday gallop into << Read More

What the movie 127 Hours didn’t show you
(We take a detour from my regular blog so I can vent a little.  I feel a rant coming on!) I liked Slumdog Millionaire – I really did – but Danny Boyle directing the story of a trapped hiker’s dramatic escape from a slot canyon? Even with Aron Ralston — the subject of the movie << Read More